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儿童行为管理策略是什么？

What are behaviour management strategies for children?

儿童行为管理策略能帮助你的孩子学会良好的行为方式。积极的行为管理策略意味着当孩子表现良好时，我们会给予他们及时的关注。而了解孩子的行为可以帮助我们选择合适的行为管理策略。

Behaviour management strategies help your child learn how to behave. Positive behaviour management means giving your child attention when they behave well. Understanding your child’s behaviour helps you choose appropriate behaviour management strategies.

怎样才能鼓励孩子们做出积极的行为？

How can I encourage positive behaviour in children?

一般有以下这些方法：首先，我们可以给孩子们定下规矩，通过纪律约束来鼓励他们做出积极的行为。其次，我们要以身作则，严格要求自己，做好示范，给孩子们树立一个好的榜样，让他们进行模仿并学习，比如尊重他人和善于倾听。

Here are some ideas for encouraging positive behaviour in the child or young person in your care. Use effective discipline strategies to encourage positive behaviour. Lead by example, and model the kind of positive behaviour you hope to see in them, such as respecting people and good listening.

引导孩子积极行为的最好方法是什么？

What is the best way to guide your child’s behaviour?

采取积极的、正面的鼓励方法是引导孩子行为的最好方式。比起孩子们做了不好的事情时，我们去惩罚孩子，我更赞同在孩子们表现良好时，我们去给予他们及时的关注与赞扬。

A positive and constructive approach is the best way to guide your child’s behaviour. This means giving your child attention when they behave well, rather than punishing your child when they do something you don’t like.

儿童在不同的阶段或特定的情况下表现出相对负面的行为其实是一种很常见的现象。所以尝试理解孩子的行为是鼓励积极行为的重要一步。当你理解了孩子行为背后的原因，你就可以选择一个与孩子行为相匹配的策略。

Children can behave in challenging ways at different stages and in particular situations. So trying to understand your child’s behaviour is an important step in encouraging positive behaviour. When you understand what’s behind your child’s behaviour, you can choose a strategy that’s well matched to the behaviour.

更重要的是，如果在使用积极的行为管理策略的同时还有非常牢固、温馨的亲子关系，则能更好地帮助孩子学习正确的行为。

And if you use positive behaviour management strategies at the same time as you nurture strong family relationships, you’re well on your way to helping your child learn about appropriate behaviour.

理解：儿童行为管理的第一步

Understanding: the first step to child behaviour management

如果你能清楚孩子消极行为背后的原因，你就能想出最好的回应方式。因此，在你选择行为管理策略之前，最好先考虑几件事情。

If you can understand why your child is behaving in a particular way, you can work out how best to respond. So before you choose behaviour management strategies, it’s a good idea to check a few things.

首先，要考虑你的孩子正处于什么样的发展阶段，以及这一阶段可能与他们的消极行为有什么联系。比如说，在幼儿和学龄前儿童中，发脾气现象其实很常见，因为这个年龄段的孩子已经形成了自我的情感，但他们却缺乏足够的语言去表达自己的想法，发脾气是他们的其中一种自我表达方式。

First, think about your child’s development and how it might be linked to challenging behaviour. For example, tantrums are very common in toddlers and preschoolers, because at this age children have big feelings and not enough words to express them.

随着孩子的成长，他们会学到更多关于行为的知识。在家长与老师的帮助下，他们也会开始学习与发展控制自己情绪和行为的技能。

As your child develops, they’ll learn more about behaviour. With your help, they’ll also start building skills to regulate their emotions and behaviour.

除此以外，我们还要考虑其他方面的事情，比如说:

As well as your child’s developmental stage, it’s also important to think about what else is going on for your child. For example:

Is your child well and getting enough sleep? Sometimes challenging behaviour is the first sign that children aren’t well or are tired. If you’re not sure, take your child to the GP or child and family health nurse for a check-up.

Have there been any changes in your family life that might affect your child’s behaviour? Children often have trouble adjusting to the birth of a new baby, the transition to school or a death in the family.

选择适合孩子的行为管理策略

Choosing behaviour management strategies that are right for you

适合的才是最好的，对于你的孩子、你的家庭来说，某种特定的行为管理策略可能比其他的行为策略都会更有效。所以，为了找出最适合你孩子年龄阶段与你家庭环境特点的那种管理方式，你需要多尝试使用不同的行为管理策略。有时候，这种特定的行为管理策略还可能是不同行为管理策略的结合式。

Some behaviour management strategies will work better than others for your child, family and situation. You might need to try a few different behaviour management strategies to work out what best suits your child’s age and stage and your family circumstances. You’ll probably have to use these strategies in combination too.

如果你发现这些策略总是不起作用，可以考虑向相关的儿童专家去寻求帮助。

If you’re finding the strategies hard to use, or they’re not working for you, it’s a good idea to seek support from your GP or a child and family health nurse.

另外，对于如何处理自闭症儿童的消极性行为，我认为这可能需要专业人员的更多专业性建议与帮助。

And if you’re managing challenging behaviour in autistic children, you might need extra support.

良好的家庭关系和行为管理

Positive family relationships and behaviour management

如果家长们愿意花时间和与精力在家里建立一个积极的家庭氛围，并不断通过情感交流来巩固与加强亲子关系，那么将能把行为管理策略的作用发挥到最好。

Positive behaviour management strategies work best when you’re putting time and effort into building a positive atmosphere at home and strengthening your family relationships with affection and communication.

良好的家庭关系能让你的孩子感受到安全和被爱。这是孩子们成长与学习的重要条件，包括关于积极行为的学习。

Good family relationships help your child feel secure and loved. This is what children need to develop, grow and learn, including to learn about behaviour.

照顾好自己

Looking after yourself

引导孩子做出适当的行为是一项重大而重要的工作。

Guiding children towards appropriate behaviour is a big and important job.

要做好这份工作，作为家长，首先要先照顾好自己，健康饮食，坚持运动，规律作息。这将有利于我们保持身心健康，并能更好地管理自己的情绪，以更积极的方式回应孩子的行为。

To do the job well, it’s important to look after yourself with healthy food, rest and exercise. This will help you feel good in yourself and make it easier for you to stay calm and respond to your child’s behaviour in positive ways.

做智慧家长，育幸福儿童，亲爱的爸爸妈妈们，让我们一起携手，共同努力，为孩子们的健康成长保驾护航，今年九月，孩子们一定能迈着更自信、更从容的脚步踏入小学，开启人生新征程！